Roles

The longer Fred and I are married the more I realize how much we depend on one another. There are tasks that we completely depend on the other one to do. I was reminded of this the other night when we were trying to figure out a new game. Fred is the Instruction reader. I tried I got bored and handed it to Fred. I could read the instructions and I am confident I could actually figure out how to play, However I don't want cause I know Fred will. Even if I read them and tried to explain the game to him, he would still read the directions. Same with any type of home repair. I could change a light bulb but instead I wait for Fred, cause I know he will want to ensure it was done right. I used to Change my own oil- Now I let Fred. Painting, Construction, squeaky doors, tires that need inflating, toy putting together, All Fred.

I on the reverse side make sure the bills are paid, Make appts, make our social plans,arrange childcare when needed, meal plan, make sure we all have proper attire. I even had to set aside a time to make Fred go Shoe shopping. I am sure Fred could do these things but he would much rather leave it to me.

We are so used to the roles we play, that when we step out things get a little Chaotic. A couple weeks ago Fred took a call from a place returning my call to get our couches serviced. He set a appt and wrote it on a torn off piece of paper and put it with all my other paperwork. He briefly told me about it and I forgot. On Tuesdays I generally take one of Sammies Friends to and from preschool so I try not to book anything then. But I find out today Tuesday that the Fix it guy is coming exactly when I should be on Preschool run. I am confident this would not have happened if I had made the appt. I would have marked my calender or wrote it on the board on the fridge.

A couple of weeks ago I attempted to get out the spot bot and clean a coffee stain. I used it, and cleaned it and put it away. Somehow a rubber piece fell in the disposal and Fred discovered it later on. It has been Driving him nuts- he is sure I didn't clean it properly and if he was not so busy on the reno I am sure he would have taken it out and cleaned it.