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Appalling

So recently I had a discussion with somebody that truly disgusted me. As most of you would know my son Nathan has a birthmark on his lip, it is a hemangioma. We are very accustom to getting comments on it. We get asked all the time what happened?, if he fell, what did he bonk on? One person even went so far as to ask if I dropped him. Now I really have come to expect people to ask, if you are looking from a distance it could look like a fat lip. I am okay with those questions well most of them....the did you drop him one I admit made me crazy mad.

So recently we were with some people and a discussion started about Nates birthmark. A lady (we know but are not direct friends but know them through association) started to talk about the birthmark and asked if we had seen anyone about it, I assured her we had and she continued on why don't they remove it? I sure wouldn't want to live with it....I am getting pretty ticked by this point but doing good at explaining it too her. I was relaying exactly what the specialist had told me. She then asked "well was it a plastic surgeon, I am sure a plastic surgeon would take it off they do amazing things" Yes it was a plastic surgeon and one that specifically deals with vascular malformations on children. She then decided to change topics and started in on Cleft lips and here is what she said.."I seen a lady with a child at the mall last week and the kid had such a horrible cleft lip, I am surprised she even had this kid out in public, I sure wouldn't leave the house if my child looked like that" My Jaw dropped, I didn't know what I could possibly say to this women...thankfully Samantha needed me right at that moment. I don't know that I have it in me to be nice after hearing something like that....I think I would have said some not very nice things if Samantha hadn't needed me.

It shocks me that people have these attitudes, It truly saddens me and makes me want to cry. Do you think that it is the parents fault? Do you think they don't weep for there child? Do you think they don't wish and pray that it wasn't there? Do you honestly think that person has not sought medical attention yet? Furthermore do you think just because they do not look what the world would classifie as "normal" does that mean they should have to be holed up in a basement never to be in public? Some people are mean. Do people think that about Nathan? Are people appalled when I take him out in public with a birthmark on his face? Nathan is truly one of the happiest babies I have ever encountered..his smile which he so readily gives lights up my life and makes my heart smile. I pray for his sake that it does go away like the Dr's are saying it will. Not because it looks funny or Ugly, but because people are mean. I don't think that Nathan's birthmark makes him any less cute - he is adorable with or without it. If anyone reading this does not agree then please KEEP IT TOO YOURSELF

Oh so Loney

Well we have found great homes for our Dogs. Meggie our Lab went to join the Bray family (Fred Sister and Fam) where she has another dog to play with as well as our niece who I hear is quite fond of Meggie! And Buddy went to live with a family from our Church. The have two absolutely amazing girls who really were excited to have a dog and they were able to talk there parents into it. Both dogs seem to be adjusting to there new surroundings and I have a feeling are being loved to pieces! So I am happy to know where they are and to be able to check in on them and see how they are doing.

We here are very much missing there presence. I truly can not believe what a messy eater Samantha is, normally after we are done eating the dogs come to do the floor clean up. meal time clean up is a lot slower without them.

The other time I especially feel the dogs absence is when we come home. It doesn't matter if we were only gone 5 Min's or for the whole day, the dogs were always at the door so excited to see us, I really miss that. It is sad to walk through the door now.

Another area where I really miss the dogs which surprised me is the feeling of security I have when they are here. Meggie is truly a suck and completely harmless but her Bark sounds vicious. Somebody would have to be really really brave to try and get in our house when Meggie doesn't know them. I really liked how safe they made us feel. Fred thinks I am kind of goofy, he thinks we are just as safe as we have always been. Maybe I am just a scared girl with irrational fears I don't know, but I do know the dogs made me feel safer.

I really miss them but I know it is what we had to do. They both are in fantastic homes. On the positive side Nathan is really doing great, the couch is almost completely gone and we are reducing the use of the inhaler.

Suckey Situation

Well Nathan had a Dr's apt last weekend and the Dr feels confident that Nathan does in fact have asthma which is being triggered by some allergy. Being that he is too Young to actually be tested we can only guess. The most obvious guess is the dogs so I took the kids to Medicine Hat for a few days, to my mothers dog free home. My mom is allergic to dogs so there has never ever been pets in her house at all as she has had it since new. We took Nate off his inhaler to see what would happen. Nate didn't cough at all. He was completely clear. As soon as we got home the coughing started again, along with a stuffy nose and a lot of sneezing. So it is a pretty safe to say the dogs are causing this. So they have to find a new home for them. Meggie our 6 yr old lab cross is having a trail run with Fred's sister and brother in law. Hopefully there dog will take to Meggie! We have a couple possibilities for Buddy but haven't made any decisions yet. THIS SUCKS. I wasn't allowed to have pets growing up so I have been very attached to the dogs it is so hard to let them go. We are really hoping to have them with people we know so that we can still see them.